A lot of my coaching work is about helping women work out how to be happy.
Of course that’s not necessarily what they say when they come to me, but essentially, for all of us, that is our ultimate goal, isn’t it?
So maybe it’s about figuring out who they are after a divorce or separation, or after years of child-care-and-parent-care-and-relationship-care, and they went to remember what it feels like to have self-care.
Or often it’s about a career change; a new...
Women have had a complicated relationship with money since history began - in large part because they had little or no direct control over it for most of that history. As a woman who runs two businesses (one as a copywriter trying to price her work, and one as a coach - again pricing, but also working with women and mindset), I understand all too well how women can often struggle to find confidence around money - in terms of negotiating for it, pricing their work, or creating a longterm...
Happy International Women’s Day!
The theme this year is #choosetochallenge which couldn’t reflect more the work I do as The Midlife coach;
Do you ever wonder what your future self will thank you for? What she desperately needs you to start, or keep doing so that she can be living a vibrant, healthy life?
What she will be really grateful you made the hard decision to do now?
How she will be so proud of you in the way you overcame a challenge?
Why will she look back and laugh with joy at what you did today or tomorrow?
What expectations can you drop that she will reap the reward from?
What beliefs that you hold about...
I often carry out an initial general audit with new clients, because regardless of the issue they want to address, the elements of our lives are intertwined, and none more so than health. It’s crucial for women from their late 30’s onwards to understand their body’s biological journey, and how to travel through it as easily as possible. This article reinforces the most important message to women in midlife - mind your health and take charge of your body, and I’m...
3 Steps to Managing Menopause
(rather than being taken hostage by it).
It was the bus ride home from town that finally convinced me that ‘life as I knew it’ had ended. As we lumbered through Rathmines, I glanced nervously at the people around me, wondering could any of them tell? Numb with fear, I was a stationary tornado of crippling thoughts, catastrophising about how, at the age of just 48, I would soon have to give up my young children and require constant care; no...
For five and a half years I had to leave my babies every other weekend, and drive (crying for them) for nearly three hours from Dublin to Belfast to care for my mum after her stroke. I would spend the next 36 hours confined in her bed-bound room, trying to converse with a woman who had loved me my whole life, but who could no longer speak to me. Then I would drive for nearly three hours home (crying for her). For five and a half years.
I’d had no choice.
My dad desperately needed support...
How do you live your best midlife?
Day by day.
Your plans, ambitions and dreams create the framework for a life you want, but it’s the day to day habits - your routines, schedules, boundaries and priorities - that create the experiences of your life.
If your daily behaviour isn’t taking you in the direction you want to go, it’s unlikely you’ll get there any time soon!
Because it’s our daily habits that will either make us or break us. Yet often we...
Is the story of your past serving you in the future?
Storytelling is one of the most profound traits that separate humans from other animals. From the earliest cave drawings and pre-written word oral traditions, we have striven to contextualise our lives.
The most important story however, is the one we tell ourself.
Words make worlds and the narrative we tell about ourselves isn’t just a story of our past, but a glory or gory arrow pointing us towards our future.
When recently asked about my Sunday self-care routine, I explained that I’ve learned the hard way that self-care isn’t a once a week treat, but a fundamental way of living intentionally. (That’s not to say Sundays aren’t a good day to indulge more thoroughly!)
But while there’s certainly been increased discussion around the importance of self-care, with the feminist author Audre Lourde going as far as to declare that “Caring for myself is not...